Planning Funerals for Young Children, Infants and Stillborns

Planning Funerals for Young Children, Infants and Stillborns

Alternatives to Flowers for Remembering Someone Who Has Passed Away

by Sophie Barnes

Flowers have long been the traditional way to show your remembrance of someone who has passed away and send condolences to their family, and buying a floral display for the funeral is still a respectable way to do so in many cultures. While flowers are usually a welcome gift, there are some situations where you might want an alternative.

Perhaps the deceased person made it known while they were alive that they didn't want people to send flowers, or their family may have decided they would prefer not to have them. Alternatively, you might anticipate that many people will buy flowers, and you'd like to do something a bit different to help the family through their grief. Here are some suitable alternatives to bear in mind. Professionals at funeral service centers may also be able to give you advice.

Charity donation

This is becoming an increasingly common alternative to flowers, and it's easy to see why. With so many charitable organisations, it shouldn't be difficult to find an appropriate one to donate to, which makes a lovely gesture.

There are two main options when it comes to choosing a charity. The first is finding one that represents a cause close to the person's heart, something they cared a lot about. The second option, for someone who died of a specific health problem, is finding a charity funding research into cures or support for people suffering with it.

Food for the family

When losing a loved one, taking care of life's practical aspects can take a backseat for a while. Sending a few home-cooked meals to a grieving family makes their lives easier and helps ensure they're eating properly. Anything that can be frozen and reheated is ideal. Just make sure there aren't lots of people planning the same thing, as the family may end up with more food than they can eat.

A living plant

Instead of flowers, a plant can last for years to come, which makes it a living reminder of the deceased. Potted plants or those that can be planted outside are both good choices, perhaps depending on the living situation of the person's family.

Memorial plaque

Sponsoring a bench in a pretty location is a nice way to remember someone who has passed away. It's particularly fitting if there's a spot they liked to sit. This doesn't always come cheaply, but is very affordable if a few people pool their money.

A permanent keepsake

Ornaments or jewellery provide family members with a permanent way to remember their lost loved one, and they can be treasured forever. Find something appropriate to the person who passed away, or something with religious symbolism if the family are members of a religion.


About Me

Planning Funerals for Young Children, Infants and Stillborns

Losing a child is the hardest thing anyone could ever go through – I know because it happened to me. Through the grief, I had to find new ways to breathe, to function and to live. Of course, I also had to plan a funeral and memorial service for my child. If you have lost a child or a baby or had a stillborn, you have probably shared many of these feelings. If this has just happened to you, you may be wondering what to do next. First, I extend my sympathy, and secondly, I offer you this blog to help you grieve and help you understand the basics of funeral planning. Take care.